When Internet porn destroys a marriage

Any type of addiction can destroy a relationship. These days, more and more women are complaining that their spouses are addicted to Internet sites that cater to the “prurient interest.”
Is that a basis for divorce in New York? That is a good question. I don’t think that by itself, the fact that your spouse has an Internet addition is enough. I mean, think about it. The grounds for divorce in New York are abandonment, constructive abandonment, cruelty, adultery, imprisonment and legal separation. Where does Internet -orn fit? I personally think it fits somewhere between the crossroads of constructive abandonment, cruelty and adultery. It’s like a “multi-faceted ground.” But it is not like you can, in your complaint, cite “Internet -or_” as the reason. That is not the basis for a divorce.
But on account of this addiction, you and your husband may have ceased having “marital relations” and so you may qualify for a divorce on the basis of constructive abandonment; or you may say that this addiction so consumes your spouse that he or she in effect ignores you and your needs, and perhaps even makes threats to leave you when you complain, or whatever. So that could raise cruelty issues in addition to emotional abandonment.
Then again, with all the “virtual fooling around” going on in cyberspace, and all the weird “avatar stuff” (I still don’t get those avatar “Second Life” stuff, do you?) and what not, perhaps, now that I think about it, you can assert a claim of adultery just on this basis alone and make out a case.
I mean, you will get your divorce if you really want it. Because I am sure this addiction is mixed up with other issues in the marriage; and so a frank discussion with your attorney should reveal enough information to convince a judge that the marriage should be terminated. (New York is a fault state so you have to convince a judge that the marriage should be terminated.) If you live outside New York, this step isn’t even necessary since you can get a divorce on the basis of irreconciliable differences in most states.