YOUR DIVORCE TEAM MATTERS: BE SURE TO PUT TOGETHER THE RIGHT GROUP OF PEOPLE TO HELP YOU REACH YOUR GOALS IN YOUR DIVORCE
Your Divorce Team is on of the most important things you need to consider.
When you get a divorce, the outcome could come down to the team you picked. Believe me, you need a formidable team. You need a , for starters. You are also going to probably need at least two of these: a forensics accountant, a tax specialist, a child psychologist, a law guardian, a private investigator, witnesses, bankers, disgruntled mistresses or paramours, other “experts” who can give appropriate testimony, and maybe even a jury in some instances.
Why does it matter? Well, unfortunately, if a divorce does not settle out of court, and it doesn’t settle after you both get lawyers who flood each other with discovery demands, then the next step is a trial. What you walk away with (whether that is custody, or assets, or responsibility of debts) may very well come down to how competent your team is, and how persuasive they are on the witness stand.
Just remember that the best witnesses are not necessarily the “smartest” people in the room. They can be. But they don’t have to be. You are looking for a combination of temperament, intellect, presence, likability, competence and loyalty (think Team Anniston Team Jolie with this one.) It’s really all about chemistry not just with your lawyer but with your whole team. There should be no prima donnas. Not even you.
It is your job to make sure the right people are picked from the start. I can’t tell you how much credibility you lose when you have to keep changing people on the team – especially your lawyer. No matter how victimized you are by your spouse, if your team lacks stability and credibility, you are likely to come out of your divorce feeling like you’ve been taken advantage of at best because the judge is going to get the wrong message and rule accordingly. A judge could literally start to lose respect for you. You may even think the judge hates you. A team with a lot of personnel changes signals trouble with the person at the helm – which is you.
Remember, where your divorce is concerned, you are the President. It is your job to pick the right cabinet – the first time around.
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