The kids are often the ones to suffer most after a divorce. One of the ways their lives are impacted is when mom, who won custody, has to find a job; whereas, while she was married, she was the stay at home mom who used to drive them to school and carpool them and their friends to soccer practice. All of a sudden, the kids are coming home to an empty house after school and have to fend for themselves in a way they didn’t have to before.
For a mom who used to be able to stay at home and raise her children, this must be a tough adjustment to make – maybe even harder for her than the kids, because they may conceivably see it as fun. They get to be alone for a few hours before any adult comes home, and they can get into all this mischief and have so much fun. But on top of everything else, mom feels guilty for leaving her children alone. She feels she has failed them somehow, even though she fought so hard for, and won her custody of them. She feels burdened by the reality that she is not “super mom” who can be in all places at all times, and be all things to all people and her children too.
At some point, most middle class to working class kids are latch key kids. It is just the reality of life in America today. The cost of nannies and babysitters cannot be afforded by most single-parent households. I mean, not everybody is coming away from marriage to the CEO of a major conglomerate, like, say, Countess Marie Douglas David who is getting a divorce from her CEO husband George David. She gets over $50K per week and she doesn’t even have kids. $1000 of that is used to pay for facials according to her pendente lite application to the court. For all our posts on the countess, go here http://www.divorcesaloon.com/index.php?s=marie+douglas+david
Most families don’t have that much to pay a babysitter for a month. And after a divorce, it is even a tougher financial bind. What is a single parent to do? It’s hard to say. But it probably would help to have the child in an after school program so that less time is spent in a house alone. There are so many free programs these days that I don’t see why any child would need to be a “latch key” kid.