The New York Post today reveals that John Galtieri is facing murder charges in Staten Island for shooting his wife Jeanne Kane in the head and killing her. The Galtieris were married about 27 years and have a couple of kids. Apparently, there was domestic violence throughout the marriage but the wife kept it to herself. She was too embarassed to tell anybody what was going on. She would work around it, and if the abuse was so bad, she would simply cancel appointments (like her daughter’s first communion party) rather than let anybody see her with bruises and out her husband.
After the divorce, Galtieri was ordered to pay alimony and he apparently didn’t do so for years, so his pension was garnished. He claims that after his wife got her “slice” he was left with $7.00 of his police pension.
Believe it or not, Galtieri remarried and was living in Florida at the time his ex wife was gunned down. His second wife had filed a domestic violence action against him, but she retracted.
I don’t know what to say about this. So I am just reporting it. I don’t have an opinion. I just think that more men are becoming violent after divorce settlements/trials/judgments and it is worrisome. What can law enforcement and the judicial system do to stem this trend? Good question. I am not sure I have the answer though. But more and more men are feeling like the judicial system is stacked against them. They are responding in a deadly manner against their wives. This is a problem that should no longer be ignored. Men are feeling “disenfranchised.” http://www.divorcesaloon.com/divorced-dads-and-the-disenfranchised-father-syndrome
I am particularly troubled by this because women are disproportionately the victims. I do think that the system has to be fair to both sides. Marriage is an “equal” partnership. Inequities – whether real or perceived – are what precipitate the problems in these violent marriages. Which is ironic because New York is an “equitable distribution” state. So this shouldn’t technically be happening. The thing is, what is fair? You know? Is it that some men think it’s fair that they get divorced and pay nothing? Or is the current scheme unfair to them? How much is fair? I don’t know. But maybe we need to start the dialogue. You know? Maybe we need to look at this. How much is fair?
Again, as I said, I don’t know what should be done. But I do know that something must be done. Because marriage as we know it, and certainly divorce is seriously toxic. And this is nationwide. Not just in New York. And I mean not just the fairness of the domestic relations laws, but also the problem of domestic violence. One often has nothing to do with the other. But often, the two are intertwined and the results are always deadly.