Can porn be used against you in a divorce?

One of our “keyword” searches on the blog last night was “can porn be used against you in a divorce?” I thought that would make a provocative title for a post, don’t you?
As to the merits, I don’t know. I mean, I have had cases where in addition to other things, allegations revolving around that past time are mentioned. But it’s never been the main course or reason that a party is seeking a divorce. I mean, I can totally see how that alone is enough to push some spouses over the edge. It seems to me that folks have different tolerance levels for this. I can totally understand if some folks don’t want any of that in their lives, and even just a little indulgence sends them running. I can totally appreciate that. Folks assume that everybody is into porn and that if you’re not, you’re either faking, or weird or something. But I am of the school of thought that it’s okay either way. You can be totally normal and never look at that stuff. Can you be “decent” and look at that stuff? I don’t really know….I mean, there is a veneer of indecency about it fundamentally, wouldn’t you agree?…
But the issue is whether it can be used against you in a divorce. I think yes. To an extent. But by itself, I’m hesitant to say it would be enough to get a divorce. In New York anyway, you would have to hitch it to some one of the legal grounds for divorce, like cruelty and constructive abandonment. Or even adultery….but what I want to know is, why can’t folks just be regular? You know what I mean?