FLORIDA: Reid & Quinn Gray + Jasmin Osmanovic on adultery, divorce, litigation and mediation

palm beachLitigation v. mediation. What will Quinn Gray and her husband Reid opt for if the marriage implodes? There is a lot at stake for the comely couple and their two young daughters.
Lately that’s been something I’ve been thinking about – this issue of litigation vs. mediation, especially since we did a critique so to speak of a report on Huffington Post by California divorce attorney, Belinda Rachman, Esq. a few days back.
With this story heating up the Internet about Reid and Quinn and Jasmin, well, it was a whole smorgasbord of topics that was irresistible and I thought I’d try to roll them all into one post.
To the issue of litigation and mediation, my general view is that I would prefer to see couples mediate when ever possible. Divorce litigation, like Ms. Rachman pointed out in her Huffington Post article, is for the birds. We differed on a few points she made, but we definitely agree with the fact that litigation in divorce cases is singularly horrible. You can read our exchange with her here: http://www.divorcesaloon.com/a-new-york-divorce-attorney-in-defense-of-divorce-lawyers
Okay. Now, waxing towards the Grays’ issues. A few days back I caught this article on Psychology Today www.psychologytoday.com/blog/divorce-grownups/200910/divorce-and-affairs and it speaks to the issue of mediation when adultery is at issue, and how difficult it is for couples to get past the devastation and hurt and mistrust in order to get to the other issues in the divorce. It is a weird phenomenon that once adultery is at issue, it literally becomes this casus belli and the “wronged” spouse pretty much wants to blame the other spouse for everything that went wrong in the marriage – which is hardly ever the case. So mediating when adultery is the “grounds” for the push to divorce can be difficult and sometimes, presumably, only litigation will satisfy the parties (who so often want their pound of flesh).
When I found the Gray’s story via today’s Google Trends I figured I could cover it within the context of mediation and litigation AND this piece in Psychology Today, even though there is no indication at this time that the Grays are even thinking about divorce – in spite of Quinn’s adultery.
Quinn Gray is an interesting character. First of all, she is described by some as an “affluent Florida housewife with a history of mental illness.” Quinn is accused, along with her alleged lover Jasmin Osmanovic, a Bosnian immigrant, of trying to extort $50,000 from her unsuspecting husband in a botched kidnapping plot.
Jacksonville Florida law enforcement officials say that Ponte Vedra Beach woman claims she was abducted and tied up in a hotel for days by Jasmin, however, according to Huffington Post the authorities became rather suspicious of the affluent woman’s story after the manager at the hotel she claims she was held in, told police she didn’t seem to be in distress while she was there. Moreover, there was a 90 minute audio tape of the two in the “throes of passion.” (This of course begs the question “when exactly was the tape made? Before or after she became a suspect?”)
But the most intriguing part of this soapsaga is that her husband Reid does not appear to want a divorce. He “fully supports her” according to a Huffington Post report. And he is “funding her defense which is, she was having a “psychotic episode and was taken advantage of by her lover.”
Wow! That’s LOVE! That’s amore! 
Sure, they may need a bit of marriage counseling after this. But a divorce seems unlikely at the moment. If, however, divorce does ensue after reality sets in with Reid, we are betting they would go the mediation route as opposed to litigation. They seem the type who could handle mediation – adultery and Psychology Today notwithstanding.

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In a bizarre case with a plot straight from the movies, police are accusing wealthy Florida wife Quinn Gray of faking her abduction, and lying about being sexually assaulted during her captivity, in a scheme, cooked up with her lover Jasmin Osmanovic, to extort $50,000 from her husband Reid.
Authorities gradually became suspicious of Gray as evidence mounted that her story was not making sense:

Authorities cite, among other things, testimony from the manager of the hotel where Gray was allegedly being held saying she “didn’t seem to be in distress at all,” and a 90-minute audiotape they say captured the sounds of Gray and Osmanovic in the throes of passion, and then plotting the details of a fake kidnapping.

Gray’s attorney claims the woman is mentally unbalanced and was taken advantage of by Osmanovic during one of her psychotic episodes. Her husband fully supports her, both standing by her version of events as well as funding her defense.

Read more at: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2009/11/03/quinn-gray-faked-kidnappi_n_343591.html

Authorities cite, among other things, testimony from the manager of the hotel where Gray was allegedly being held saying she “didn’t seem to be in distress at all,” and a 90-minute audiotape they say captured the sounds of Gray and Osmanovic in the throes of passion, and then plotting the details of a fake kidnapping.

Read more at: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2009/11/03/quinn-gray-faked-kidnappi_n_343591.html

Authorities cite, among other things, testimony from the manager of the hotel where Gray was allegedly being held saying she “didn’t seem to be in distress at all,” and a 90-minute audiotape they say captured the sounds of Gray and Osmanovic in the throes of passion, and then plotting the details of a fake kidnapping.

Read more at: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2009/11/03/quinn-gray-faked-kidnappi_n_343591.html

 

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