HOW TO RESHAPE YOUR MARRIAGE, LOVE YOUR SPOUSE AGAIN and avoid divorce

kissHOW TO RESHAPE YOUR MARRIAGE, LOVE YOUR SPOUSE AGAIN and avoid divorce
Here are ten tips for the almost divorcing:
1. Start with yourself. Examine yourself. Are you the best spouse you can be? Are you the person he or she married? What can you do to improve and quickly on who you are at this very moment?
2. Vow to act unselfishly in the New Year. We feel that a lot of problems married couples have has to do with increasing selfish behavior that touches on sex, money, kids and everything else. If you try a little selflessness, it could make a big difference in your marriage.
3. Do special little favors. Kindness often begets kindness. Try to do unexpected things that are sweet and nice that your spouse would not expect from you. Make a special dinner. Iron a shirt. Give a compliment or five. Buy tickets to a show or something fun that your spouse has not done in a while and go on a date. Give spontaneous orgasms.
4. Try counseling for couples even though you think counseling is for crazies.
5. Shut up and listen for a change. And when you are done listening, hear. Then take action to resolve conflicts by using genuine empathy as a starting point rather than judgment and blame.
6. Try having kids. If that was the problem to begin with, then lay off the obsession with having kids….adjust. Bend. Defer. Whatever it takes to get back to harmony and sweet dreams with your spouse.
7. Take a voluntary time out away from each other to think things through. But don’t call it a separation. It’s just a time out. In that time, work on your physical and emotional wellbeing and IQs.
8. Give up your lover – or get one depending on the circumstances of the conflict of your marriage.
9. Say I love you….with a kiss.
10. Whatever you do, don’t renovate the house. That’s usually a recipe for divorce.
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