When grandma and grandpa divorce, what do you tell the grandkids?

The zeitgeist of the 00’s is hardly what is was when grandparents remained married till they died. Today’s grandparents are baby-boomers and they are anything but conventional. They came of age in the 60’s when sexual exploration, drugs and non-conformity were the norm. They are the first generation of “rogue” grannies and grandpas who, with viagra and cialis think they are 65 going on 16. When their three-quarter life crisis kicks in, a lot of them decide, “you know what? It’s been 32 years of marriage to your ugly self and and I’m out of here. I want a new boyfriend (or girlfriend as the case may be). I want a motorcycle. I want to be like Meryl Streep and Steve Martin and Alec Baldwin in ‘It’s complicated.’ I want to smoke some pot.”
And there they are in divorce court trying to undo a lifetime of earnings, experiences and memories. It happens. More than people realize. And what is happening now is that you have a whole generation of grandkids (and kids) who are totally traumatized by that. Mom and dad aren’t supposed to get divorced. Grandma and grandpa aren’t supposed to get divorce. Divorce is for the young and irresponsible; the unsettled and uncommitted. How can two people who were seemingly committed (after 32 years!) get up and decide they don’t want to be together anymore.
Well, so, what to tell the grandkids? That’s what I am not sure. You’re not going to tell them that gramps and grannie are smoking pot again. But I guess you would tell them something similar to if you and your spouse are splitting up. “It’s not your fault.” “Grandma and grandpa still love you.” “You will still be able to see gramps and grannie whenever you want.” And, “you still have mommy and daddy. We are not going anywhere. We are not getting divorced.” Of course, if you are getting divorced or are already divorced show the child that life is still wonderful and happy in spite of that; so that, divorce doesn’t mean the end of the world even when grandma and grandpa are the perpetrators.