What words of wisdom would Emerson or the Dalai Lama give to someone struggling with their divorce?

It is easy when one is going through divorce to point fingers and blame and to feel bitterness and go into war mode. But two philosophers could help alleviate the pain.  From the Dalai Lama:
Follow the three R’s:
– Respect for self.
– Respect for others.
– Responsibility for all your actions.”
—14th Dalai Lama of Tibet
From Emerson:
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