Co-parenting as a way to reduce the impactfulness of divorce

MTV is flirting with the idea of a docu-series about kids and divorce. After they contacted our blog asking us to post an announcement that they are seeking participants for the show, we sort of had divorce and teens on our collective cerebral cortex. 
There is no question that divorce is a very impactful event in the lives of young people – teens in particular. It is hard on them even though a lot of times, parents seem oblivious to this. What can parents do to reduce the impactfulness of divorce on Kids? Well, we’ve been discussing that subject at length and here are some of the ways we’ve come up with:
1) Don’t commit parental alienation. Our chief counsel, Ms. M. Lewis, was very adamant about that one, and I have to agree with her.  Some parents add to the stress of divorce by trying to poison the relationship between the other parent and the child. It’s wrong. Don’t do that to the kids.
2. Don’t bad-mouth each other. Just because you hate each other doesn’t mean the kids have to hate too. Keep your bad blood behind the walls of your own heart and never let on to the kids that you think their mommy or daddy is a piece of horse dung. It damages the child.
3. Insist on the child showing respect to both parents.
4. Continue to foster a relationship with the child’s grandparents so that they have the extended family in their lives post-divorce.
5. Do things together as a whole family sometimes. It is not has hard and ludicrous as it sounds. Many families do it. Whether it’s to celebrate a birthday or attend a soccer game or attend parent-teacher’s night, doing things as a family post-divorce will help children transition a lot better.
6. Insist on the children’s active recognition of days like Fathers Day or Mother’s day and all birthdays. Let them send cards and little presents. Make sure they call to acknowledge the day.
7. Keep open communications about the children going. Send emails, or call to let each other know what is going on, even if it’s a dental appointment. And ask for the input from the other parent for major decisions.
8. Unless the other parent gives his or her express permission, do not allow the kids to call anyone else mommy or daddy.