Divorce & teen suicide rates

Ex Idol Fantasia Barrino (yes, we know she’s not a teen) was apparently admitted to a hospital on suspicion of a drug overdose. No word whether it was accidental or intentional. But this news comes on the heel of scandalous allegations by a North Carolina woman about Barrino and said woman’s husband. The woman is suing Barrino for, among other things, alienation of affection. Apparently the woman believes that Barrino had an affair with her husband and made a sex tape to cement the relationship.
Fantasia’s publicist has come out and vehemently denied that she is blameworthy for the marital implosion but maybe deep down, Fantasia blames herself. Certainly, if she attempted suicide by overdose then she must feel some blame. Hopefully, this was an accident. But if this overdose was intentional, we hope she seeks some psychological help. At the end of the day, we don’t buy this cop out by married people that someone else caused their divorce. At the same time, Fantasia has learned the hard way to stay away from married infidels. Because at the end of the day, it is not just the spouse who blames the third party. The courts in North Carolina blames the third party big time and routinely awards the spouse huge pecuniary pay outs for “alienation of affection.”
This whole story about the overdose got me to thinking about suicide for some reason. We have done a post or two on the issue of divorce & suicide. But never from the context of say, teenagers. So we wanted to touch on it briefly.
Seems there is some strong correlation between a parental divorce and an attempt of suicide by teenage kids. For some reason when parents divorce, many young people feel helpless, isolated, and blameworthy. They feel like they have “lost control” of the family- as if it was their responsibility to hold the family together in the first place. The hurt is so tremendous for many young people, it is so great that they think they have no choice but to end their lives. And many do.
The one thing that is a kid’s friend at a time like this, is, time. But most don’t realize this. If a teen who was contemplating suicide could only hold on to the truth that “this too, shall pass” and look to the future rather than dwell on the difficulties of the present, perhaps more would make the decision to live rather than die. A divorce is nothing to die over. Especially when it’s someone else’s divorce and especially when you have no control over the divorce.
Rather, teens should be helped to see that the important thing for them is to live their own lives. LIVE. And let the adults handle their own grown up problems.
Parents and others can help by encouraging the teen NOT to personalize the situation and not to take blame for something that most often than not has absolutely nothing to do with them.
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