How is your divorce really affecting your teen? Check out the non-verbal cues

Grannie always said “actions speak louder than words.” And that is so true. The website left a message on our tweetdeck yesterday which was “pay attention to what teens are not saying, watch their behavior.” That was a great point. Parents who are divorcing may not be aware of how deeply this is affecting their children. They may even mistakenly think that all is well since their teen is not verbalizing how sad or depressed they are about the situation.
But just because a teen is not verbalizing, or may be verbalizing but saying that “all is well” does not mean there isn’t a lot going on inside. Parents are cautioned to look at the behavior of their teenagers to really gauge what is going on. Is the youngster’s behavior significantly different? Are they a lot quieter than usual? Or a lot more talkative? Does her or she isolate from the rest of the family? Is there anger issues that never used to be there? Is there disinterest in usual activities? Have they stopped hanging out with and interacting with friends? Is he or she acting secretive and strange all of a sudden?
Non-verbal cues can give a parent a lot more insight into how a child is feeling about a divorce than what the child is verbalizing about the divorce. Pay attention to your kids as pointed out. It could save their lives.