Divorce & Boarding School

DIVORCE & BOARDING SCHOOL Maybe it’s good for the children to be in boarding school while the parents are going through a divorce. Divorce can be very hard on kids and if it is a contentious and combative situation, it can do untold emotional harm to children.

Kids, Divorce & Boarding School

So, while being away at boarding school might make them feel cut off from their parents and even sad in some instances, the distance from ground zero might not be totally bad. There’s good in it. for one thing, boarding school can provide a “safe and structured” environment for a child that may not be feasible when both parents are pre-occupied with a divorce.
Obviously, if your child is at boarding school, you’re probably upper middle class or higher in terms of your socio-economic group and so the children are probably used to a certain level of distance between themselves and their parents, unlike less affluent groups who tend to live in smaller homes and have a closer relationship and a more hands on relationship with their children – and send their children to public day schools. These lower income folks do not have the option of shipping their children off to boarding school and so the children are more exposed to the divorce and all it’s attendant issues and problems. And that is not necessarily a good thing as I said. In some cultures, though, children are off to boarding school even if the family isn’t all that affluent. But these cultures typically would have a lower divorce rate than we do in the West. http://www.flickr.com/photos/mckaysavage/2230562684/sizes/m/in/photostream/