The American Academy of Matrimonial lawyers seem to think that cyber sex is busting up more marriages than ever before. Their opinion is based in part on an article in the New York Daily News which suggests that cybersex is a factor in more and more divorces across the country:
Propelled by the popularity of sex-tinged computer services, divorce lawyers are reporting a first rash of cases in which spouses are splitting up because one has met a new partner online.
A Daily News survey of New York and New Jersey lawyers found that there have been nearly a dozen divorce cases over the past year in which cyber cheating was a factor in a couple seeking to split.
And the phenomenon appears to echo nationally, with lawyers in five states reporting a handful of cyber-related divorce cases.
In at least four cases in the New York area, spouses left their mates for someone they encountered through computer services.
“Instead of meeting at the bar or the Holiday Inn, they’re meeting on the computer,” said Jeffrey Sunshine, a Brooklyn matrimonial lawyer who says he has handled three cyber-related divorce cases in the past nine months.
Evidently, more and more married people are getting online in chat rooms and striking up inappropriate sexual discussions and relationships with people they met on the computer; then, after a certain amount of cyber correspondences, they are literally hooking up with these people they meet online for cyber-lust sessions. Often, this means gallivanting to opposite sides of the country – but this does not deter these cyber-cheats. They will go wherever they have to go to get the action they seek.
Now, whatever “cyber-sex” actually boils down to (it seems a very abstract concept, frankly, and is difficult to picture the parameters of it – I mean, what are they talking about?) married people, nevertheless, seem to be having it in droves. Says the New York Daily News:
Cyber cheating gained attention earlier this year when a New Jersey man sued his wife for adultery after he discovered that she was engaging in cyber sex with a man using the E-mail name, “The Weasel.”
Since then, the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers learned in a poll of some of its 1,500 members that lawyers in Ohio, Illinois, Missouri, Oklahoma and Arizona have recently gotten cases in which the computer correspondence played a role in marital splits.
“Our sense is that there is certainly more anecdotal evidence of it happening,” said Jonathan Dedmon, a spokesman for the Academy, which represents 1,500 lawyers nationwide. “It’s the usual, people bored with each other, not communicating, the typical reasons for divorce, only now in a different venue.”
Thus, if you are married and there is any trouble in your relationship (lack of communication, boredom, etc) and you notice that your spouse is spending an unusual amount of time on the computer, it may behoove you to look in to it because where there is smoke there is usually cyber-cheating going on.
Read more at The New York Daily News