The passion killers, the 3 year glitch and other troubles married people need to consider to avoid divorce
Well, if you’re one of the folks who’ve read this blog before, and have been following it for a while, you may have noticed that I’ve been posting a lot to the “marriage” section lately. And that is because in the past few years, I’ve grown as
an artist blogger, and as a person. And I’ve decided that I don’t want to be in the business of sensationalizing divorce, or even to have the appearance that I am sensationalizing divorce. I mean, this is a divorce blog and always will be and so mostly, I will be talking about divorce. But it occurred to me some time back that I also need to discuss marriage within the context of divorce and offer tips (how ever misguided and clueless I may seem) to readers who may be contemplating divorce, but who may also be interested in trying to save their marriages. Because as I’ve said numerous times, notwithstanding what it may seem to the contrary, I believe in marriage and I am anti-divorce. To the extent a marriage can be saved — especially where there are children involved, I believe everything should be done to save it. And I think that a part of my responsibility and purpose as a blogger whose main subject is divorce, is absolutely to talk about how to possibly AVOID divorce. Hence, all the recent postings in the “marriage” section.
Is some of that stuff silly and unworkable? To some people, maybe. But if you are discerning, interested and willing, I bet there is something you can take away from some of that seeming drivel that might be used to help you save your marriage — if it can be saved. Because isn’t that why everyone got married anyways? To make it last and to see it to the end of what you said in your vows? I honestly think that if everyone could save their marriage, they would. I don’t think anybody who winds up divorced ever really wanted that or imagined that as the outcome of their marriage. Everybody wants a forever marriage if they can have it, no?
Well, to that end, all the posts in the marriage section, as I said.
So, I just took a break from working on another project and I saw this article on Yahoo News. Btw, I’ve noticed that Yahoo has a lot of interesting divorce and relationship articles lately. This subject is really becoming the hot new topic on the Internet, eh? See the trend we started? 🙂 Anyways, it was a very interesting piece because it was talking about the new 3 year
itch glitch. It’s no longer the 7 year itch, it’s the 3 year glitch. That’s when people start to feel restless and relationships enter a danger zone. If you are married you need to read it. It’s based on a British study/survey of 2000 couples, and among other things, the article listed these ten things as major relationship/passion killers:
The top 10 everyday niggles and passion-killers: 1. Weight gain/lack of exercise, 13 percent; 2. Money & Spend thriftiness, 11 percent; 3. Anti-social working hours, 10 percent; 4. Hygiene issues (personal cleanliness), 9 percent; 5. In-Laws/extended family – too much/too little, 9 percent; 6. Lack of romance (sex, treats etc.), 8 percent; 7. Alcohol – drinking too much, 7 percent; 8. Snoring & anti social bedtime habits, 6 percent; 9. Lapsed fashion-Same old underwear/clothes, 4 percent; 10. Bathroom habits – Stray nail cuttings etc., 4 percent.
They also talked about how the 3 year mark is when couples start to need to take vacations alone without their spouse; and it is also when they start to give each other less compliments and generally are more apt to start getting annoyed with petty things that used to be “adorable” in the early phases of their relationships.
It’s pretty interesting. And something I think married folks need to think about. The 7 year itch is now the 3 year glitch. And I have to say, when I practiced divorce law, I did notice that a vast number of people were getting married and divorced in 3 years or less. Something to think about. Read the rest of the article here: http://news.yahoo.com/s/nm/20110309/hl_nm/us_couples_survey