Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith: A strong Hollywood marriage that defies divorce

Will and Jada Pinkett Smith: A strong Hollywood marriage that defies divorce

Years ago, I remember reading this poll that said that Jennifer Aniston and Brad Pitt’s marriage was the most solid and that Will and Jada Pinkett Smith’s marriage was likewise solid, second only to Brad and Jen. It stuck in my mind because I wondered what the criteria was that the pollsters used. And obviously, whatever the criteria was, they were dead wrong in their predictions.

Mr. & Mrs. Smith and Family

It has been more than a decade that the Pinkett Smiths have been married. Mr & Mrs. Smith show no sign of getting a divorce anytime soon. Rather, they have become more visible lately as one of the quintessential Hollywood entertainment families now that their two little spawns Jaden and Willow are likewise breaking out and making a name for themselves. (I love Willow, btw. The girl can rock a song, so much stage presence, so fearless. Go Willow!) So I wondered what their secret might be. Why is their marriage so solid and has outlasted so many others that seem to have been such a sure thing?
Well, if you listen to Mr. Smith, as I have over the years, he is very clear on one thing: divorce is not an option. He has said that repeatedly in interviews. And I think he means it. He has also said that he is a “one woman man.” And that augurs well for a marriage. Fidelity. Commitment. You know? Plus, they have a lot in common. They are both entertainers so they understand fundamentally what the other goes through. That can be problematic because it can lead to competition in a business like theirs. But somehow, they have managed to make it work and not let the business get in the way of their life at home. They seem to support each other’s careers rather than get in the way of each other’s careers and that’s good.
Jada has said recently that she understands what her priority is: her FAMILY. She is focused on being a wife and mother and that is very key, very important in a marriage. Both parties must understand the priorities of the relationship.
Will and Jada seem to be friends as well. That’s key too. You have to be buddies. I don’t see how you can have a successful marriage if you’re not. Well….I take that back. Maybe you can. I know people who are not really buddies but it works. But you do have to like each other. I think the ideal is that you are buddies. You can talk about anything. You can laugh about everything. You get each other. I think that is key. I think Will and Jada get each other.
I think they fight, of course. You can just tell. Jada is a strong personality. She is not going to be a little doormat and let Will walk all over her. She runs the show. But that’s okay. One of the keys to a successful marriage is that the wife runs the show. No, seriously. If the wife doesn’t run the show, the marriage is less likely to survive. When a man submits his life to his wife in way that she knows she runs the show and the world knows she runs the show? The marriage lasts longer than when the man runs the show. For example, and I say this with reservation because I love Jen Aniston, but I don’t think Brad ever submitted to her. He never just turned his life over to her to just be his wife and run the show. Quite the opposite. He probably was the one who “ran the show.” This can never work in the long run.
How can I explain that better?….see, men rule. Ok? But….it’s weird. They need to feel respected in a marriage and relationship. In a way, they are the head of the home, you know? But then, in another way, the woman runs the show. I don’t know how to explain it. But I do know that a successful marriage is one in which a man submits to his wife running the show. It’s like Bill and Camille Cosby. Mr. Cosby always talks about his wife this way, “Mrs. Cosby.” He doesn’t call her Camille in public. He calls her “Mrs. Cosby.” And just by that little thing, I know she runs the show. It’s like Barack and Michelle Obama. Michelle runs the show. But Barack is still the head of that family.
I don’t know how to explain. It’s like my mom. She runs the show….
That’s why that marriage between Jada and Will lasts, I think. Because while Will is the head of the home, Jada runs the show. And plus, they have these two adorable kids who bind them together even more.
Hope I didn’t just jinx them (I can be such a bleeping jinx!).  Gotta run. I  want to hit the gym before everybody else wakes up. (I am starting to see results finally and I am so psyched. I’m kinda starting to see my skinny little self trying to emerge from underneath all this blub. It is so awesome!!! :))
Well, have a lovely day, reader. And come back again soon. Ok?
Oh, and go work out. It’s good for you. 🙂
Originally published April 22, 2011
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