Is your marital sex a sizzling success? Or is it an epic fail? By “sex” I am referring to the sessions you are having with your spouse. And only those. Are they successful, hot and unforgettable and sizzling?
Girl, I know. This topic is too hot to handle but I am here to tell you that if your sex is not sizzling hot you could be heading for divorce! I am serious. Now. It doesn’t have to be that way. You can stop this from happening. How? With education, of course. By understanding some fundamentals.
Let’s talk hardball. What are the fundamentals? What can you do? Well, two things. Focus on the art and then focus on the science. Of sex. It’s the two. What am I talking about? I don’t know yet. I am making this up as I go along. Bear with me. But I think it’s the two: science and art. The art part is the seduction part and that includes the outfits and the panties and the perfume and the twerking and the kardashianesque selfies that you send to him at work (impliedly promising and hopefully delivering) when he gets home. It is the wine and the sex toys and the…jésus, I don’t know.
What is the science part? This is the question. A very good one. And I am drawing a blank. For example, I read that there is a science behind orgasms and sex appeal which, I imagine, would impact the sizzle of your marital. Are you getting orgasms? Do you think your spouse has sex appeal? If not, fix both. How and where? Look, sex is on everybody’s cerebral cortex – even those who are celibate – whatever that means. Sex is scientific! It is a laboratory! Get thee into the sex lab and save your marital union!
Where is the sex lab?
I still don’t know. Hold on. I am going to google this ………………………………………………………………………….
Ah. So it’s all about dopamine. You have to get it and you have to make sure your spouse gets it and you will get orgasms and you will see and feel sex appeal. …….Here is a good quote:
The neurotransmitter dopamine plays an important role in our desires. The brainstem sends dopamine to many areas of our reward systems, like the ventral striatum (especially its major subcomponent, the nucleus accumbens), the amygdala, the hypothalamus, the septum, and the olfactory tubercle. As we saw earlier, these areas are involved when we desire food. They are also involved when we desire sex. The neuroscientist Itzhak Aharon and his colleagues showed that heterosexual men will exert extra effort to view pictures of attractive women, and that this effort is associated with more neural activity in the nucleus accumbens. Cocaine and amphetamines amplify the effects of dopamine and enhance the desire for sex. Neural activity in the hypothalamus that increases during sexual arousal is enhanced with the drug apomorphine, which works on dopamine receptors. Conversely, antipsychotic medications and some antidepressants that block dopamine receptors inhibit sexual desire.
Hme…no, I don’t recommend you take cocaine. I have never taken it and so I don’t really know its effects but I don’t recommend it. Try to find another way to get your daily dose of dopamine.
Here is a video (which I have not watched) called the Science of Sex Appeal. Why don’t you take a look at it if you have time? It is an hour long and surely must contain some useful information.
If I had to sum up, I think the science is in the brain and the art is the external add ons. So it is in the thinking. There is a book published by Simon and Schuster called This is Your Brain on Sex. This might also be a useful resource.
I am going to stop here.