Travelling solo after divorce: By Phoebe Montague for Divorce Saloon International
Filed in Opinion and Divorce Travel
I have always loved to travel and I have always travelled solo, long before I ever got divorce. Indeed it was how I met my husband in Buenos Aires in February 1996 – on a solo trip to South America. During the beginning years of our marriage, my husband and I continued to travel a lot and we have probably visited at least one country on every continent, as well as we have cruised to Antarctica on our third trip to Buenos Aires in 2002.
Make a long story short, my husband and I divorced shortly after our ten year anniversary, after the still-birth of our only child. The details of this event are not ones I want to get into, but it was a very painful time in our lives and in our marriage and one thing led to another and we decided to go our separate ways.
Since our divorce, I have been traveling again. Almost as much as I did when I was young and carefree – Mostly in Africa, the South Pacific and South America. I love to travel solo. It gives me so much time to relax and to think and just to explore the world on my own terms.
Right now I am writing now from Melbourne, Australia. I have a little beach house on the coast that I share with 2 other expats and I have been here teaching English or all things to pay the bills and I also blog and submit articles to various blogs and this is how I subsist. It is incredible that I get to turn my solo journeys into blog posts that I can make money from!
I should disclose that I did get a small settlement in my divorce but I make a point of touching that cash as little as possible because I don’t know what the future holds.
Right now I am basically having my own Eat, Pray, Love experience and I am really learning so much about myself and having the time of my life. It is like a second adolescence.
It is hard to be divorced at middle age when you are no longer in your twenties or thirties and haven’t had the kind of career success you would like. One of the reasons I like traveling solo after my divorce is that it takes me away from a lot of the toxicity back home and people looking at you as if you are a failure because you divorced your husband after a ten year marriage and you don’t have this amazing career. I was never the career type of woman and I am not ashamed of that.
My husband was definitely a “good catch” in a lot of ways. But things just didn’t work out in the end. I was a stay at home wife and did not have a chance to develop my career. Traveling allows me to be more independent and to try to find my way on my own terms. And even though I traveled so much in my youth it is amazing that there is still so much of the world left to see. I will stay in Melbourne for three more months or so and then I will heading back to Africa to work on an wild life reserve for six months.
To be honest, as much as I loved my husband, I feel like I am having the time of my life and I would not change my life right now to be tied down in a marriage. Freedom is a very priceless thing and I highly recommend it to your readers.