In Praise of Hollywood's Strongest, Most Iconic Black Marriage: Denzel & Pauletta Washington

Married in 1983, Denzel and Pauletta Washington are one of the most enduring African American married couples in Tinsel Town. The couple has 4 children and have lived in California for the past several years where Denzel has been enjoying a prolific career as a leading film star.

The couple met on the set of a tv show back in the 1980s, fell in love and got married not long after.

Pauletta has indicated in interviews that it is not always peaches and creme in their marriage – as has Denzel. They both admit that they work on their marriage very hard and that they are both committed to their commitment.

Mrs Washington provides her husband with familial stability and he values his role as provider to the family, bringing in millions of dollars per movie almost yearly. He also has quite a lot of income from royalties.

Denzel has won many accolades for his work as a Hollywood actor, and his wife is always there to support him when he picks up his various awards, to wit:

He has received three Golden Globe awards, a Tony Award, and two Academy Awards: Best Supporting Actor for the historical war drama film Glory (1989) and Best Actor for his role as a corrupt cop in the crime thriller Training Day (2001).

What are the secrets to their marital success?

Denzel said in an interview that it has helped their marriage that they spend a lot of time apart. This is interesting and noteworthy. Time apart can actually make the heart grow fonder – at least it does for Mr & Mrs Washington!

But other than spending time apart, Denzel always seems to compliment his wife every chance he gets. He has said that he “married up” in marrying her. Pauletta comes from a family that is very well educated and very close and Denzel comes from a broken home and he admires his wife’s upbringing and her education and her family. He does not put her down and belittle her or try to compete with her in any way. He raises her up rather than pulls her down.

Pauletta on the other hand seems to be a solid rock on which the foundation of her and Denzel’s family is built. She does not seem to be the jealous type who gets unhinged by other women; and by all accounts there have been a lot of other women throwing themselves at Denzel over the years. Pauletta has held fast to her principles, pride and class.

She remained composed through it all, never letting any of their private squabbles about other women spill out into the public domain. Denzel has admitted in interviews that he has not been perfect. While Pauletta says “I live with this man, I see the sad parts.”
Cheating Rumours

There have been cheating rumors over the years but after a marriage that has endured more than 3 decades, it is probably not such a surprise to hear that one of the partners could have strayed. Recent articles on and in Globe Magazine suggest that the marriage could be on its last leg.

Even if that turns out to be true, still, this couple deserves a standing ovation for having lasted this long in Hollywood and to have done it with such grace and class.

Hopefully, if they do decide to go their separate ways, they will continue to hold themselves up with dignity and grace and will not debase their 3 decade legacy as one of the most classy and solid couples not only in Hollywood, but in America, and the whole world.