Parental Alienation is like Date Rape with a Date Rape drug

Is Parental Alienation More Like Smoking and Drinking? Or is it More Like Date Rape?

I was just reading an article on Dadsdivorce.com about how parental alienation is considered a threat to public health. A practitioner in the UK actually made the comparison, says the author Shawn Garrison: who insisted that this phenomenon is indeed a global problem:

Parental alienation is a global problem. In the United Kingdom, chief executive of the Children and Family Court Advisory and Support Services (Cafcass) Anthony Douglas called parental alienation child abuse and estimated that around 80% of the most difficult cases that come before family courts are because of parental alienation.
“I think the way you treat your children after a relationship has broken up is just as powerful a public health issue as smoking or drinking,” Douglas said.

 
Do you agree with this analogy between public health issues like smoking and drinking and parental alienation? It is agreed that parental alienation is wrong, of course, and that it is a problem. But is it the same problem as drinking and smoking? Garrison went on to quote Robert Franklin, a member of the board of the National Parents Organization:

“Why would parental alienation constitute a public health issue? Because parental alienation’s whole purpose is to remove as much as possible one parent from a child’s life,” wrote Robert Franklin, Esq., who is a member of the NPO’s National Board of Directors. “And, since both parents are important to children’s well-being – their mental and physical health, their educational success, career success, etc. – parental alienation necessarily impacts the commonwealth.”

It is clear that this needs to stop. But again, I am not sure that I would say it has the same impact as smoking and drinking on the commonwealth. First of all, smokers and drinkers make a personal choice. Second, they are adults who make their own decisions. Third, they tax society if their habits lead to health problems. Last, they damage their physical health.
By contrast, children who have been “alienated” from a parent did not make a personal choice. Someone else makes the choice for them. They are not adults.  They do not tax society except if when they become adults and they suffer mental illness like depression that requires medical intervention (but who knows if that is really due to the parental alienation or not?) and they are not usually damaging their physical health because their parent alienated them from the other parent.


I disagree. I don’t think parental alienation is a public health issue like smoking or drinking. I don’t respectfully think that comparison makes a lot of sense.


I think it is more like date rape using a date rape drug. It is a situation where free choice is removed and something is taken away against your will. Parental alienation is more like date rape than it is like smoking or drinking.


What do you think?

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