RENEWING YOUR WEDDING VOWS INSTEAD OF FILING FOR DIVORCE
Renewing your wedding vows is a thing a lot of people try before they file for divorce. Celebrities do it a lot. Heidi Klum and Seal, Jennifer Lopez and Marc Anthony, Khloe, and Lamar.
Clearly, this strategy does not always work. Renewing your wedding vows does have an underlying benign intention but for some people it does backfire so it behooves you to assess your own personal situation before you do it, as it could turn out to be bad luck.
However, when done correctly, renewing your wedding vows is a good move to save your marriage, I would think. Haven’t tried it personally but its sounds like it should work.
My grandparents renewed their vows after 50 years of marriage. It was the most beautiful thing I had ever seen in my life. They were not having marriage problems when they did it and so I don’t think renewing your vows necessarily will work when you are having SERIOUS marriage problems. I think if your marriage is in crisis you should see a shrink, not a priest.
But I do think if the problems are minor, that you can do both. You can get couple’s therapy and you can renew your vows. One can be in concert with the other, in tandem with the other, so to speak.
The whole idea of renewing your vows is just to remind yourself and each other why you even embarked on this journey together in the first place. It’s like a little nudge, a little poke.
If you are blissfully happy, actually, I am not even sure if I would recommend renewing the vows because if it ain’t broke don’t fix it. I think renewing the vows is more for the in between couples who are not blissfully happy but who are not having severe marriage problems. Or, like my grandparents, if you have been married for a very long time and you are sure of yourselves and just want to do it for the fun and pageantry.
And what fun it can be!
Meanwhile, you may want to consider additional marriage saving measures. For example, maybe where you live is bad for your marriage. You should consider maybe changing states, neighborhoods, or even countries in addition to renewing your wedding vows.