Divorce Stress Syndrome: What is it?
Do you have divorce stress syndrome and not even realize it?
A lot of people get divorce stress. But not all of them have divorce stress syndrome.
Apparently, this is a scientifically identified ailment. A lot of people who are going through divorce or have recently divorced, experience certain symptoms and those symptoms include insomnia, panic attacks and crippling pain and when this prolongs, it becomes a syndrome.
A huge part of the reason that people experience divorce stress which then morphs into Divorce Stress Syndrome is they don’t choose the right responses. Divorce Saloon’s editors have been writing about divorce stress for many years. In How to Reduce Divorce Stress I personally wrote:
Choose your reactions carefully. You want to “live a life of design not a life of reaction” and this also applies to your divorce. You have to design your divorce and your response to it. But if you fail to properly design, at least you can control how you respond. Your response to things is a choice whether conscious or unconscious. You must be more conscious and aware that each time you feel “stressed” it is a choice that you are making. Choose calm.
Are you one of those people who is experiencing divorce stress syndrome? You should know that you are not alone and that there is help. In addition to choosing your reactions, you should also choose not to be ashamed of feeling stressed. You are not weak. You are not a loser. This whole situation is not your fault. And no, you are not going to perish out there by yourself. A huge part of why people have divorce stress syndrome is the fear of what is to come after their marriage ends. They don’t know if they are going to be alright. They don’t know if they will ever find someone else. They feel like a failure that the marriage ended. And the process of divorce itself is no picnic in the jardin du Luxembourg either. This combative, adversarial process is enough to make anybody get the shakes.
At its most severe, having divorce stress syndrome is not unlike having post-traumatic stress disorder for some people.
Sometimes simple meditation as well as support from friends and family, and exercise, will be all you need. This post 8 Types of Workouts to Reduce Divorce Stress might be helpful in fact. But other times you will need medical intervention, perhaps medication from your doctor to help with sleeping and to ease the pain.
Of course, you have to be very careful with these medications because it can become a dependency and you don’t want to trade one problem for another problem – that of addiction. So it is better to try the natural non-medicinal remedies first. Taking control of your mind, for example, and talking to yourself meditatively; knowing that you are going to be alright no matter what happens. It is really about your beliefs. Healing post-divorce, keeping divorce stress syndrome at bay, comes down to what you let yourself believe. Therefore, believe positive things will happen to you and believe you are a worthy, resilient human being and hold that thought in your head till that is all there is and that is all you are.